tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.comments2024-01-07T02:38:29.685-05:00my life my words my mindTrinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08711876205793925101noreply@blogger.comBlogger465125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-38109974605184601412024-01-07T02:38:29.685-05:002024-01-07T02:38:29.685-05:00Hello mate, great blogHello mate, great blogJosh Fergusonhttps://joshfergusononline.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-75819923539595730442023-10-18T08:38:07.237-04:002023-10-18T08:38:07.237-04:00Thank you for shaaringThank you for shaaringImageneszthttps://imageneszt.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-42535506874664051392023-09-05T20:51:24.928-04:002023-09-05T20:51:24.928-04:00Thanks, great blog. Thanks, great blog. Pretty Little Thingshttps://pretty-little-things21.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-79820056759878896792023-05-12T17:18:38.742-04:002023-05-12T17:18:38.742-04:00Great read thaankyouGreat read thaankyouPaleo Recipeshttps://www.paleocooks.com/paleo/paleo_tucson_salad_bowl_with_grilled_chicken_tomatoes_and_pine_nuts_14327805304.shtmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-55915323352282083872022-08-09T07:42:47.625-04:002022-08-09T07:42:47.625-04:00Hi great reading yoour postHi great reading yoour postWallpaper Installation Bristolhttps://www.wallpaper-professionals.com/us/connecticut-wallpaper-hanging/wallpaper-installation-bristol.shtmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-14186668133719867672021-10-29T04:14:39.727-04:002021-10-29T04:14:39.727-04:00Great poost thank youGreat poost thank youJenna Shttps://www.jennastuart.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-86912809032075870702013-07-02T12:41:52.376-04:002013-07-02T12:41:52.376-04:00I have a new blog. Come and see it. http://pjs36...I have a new blog. Come and see it. http://pjs365project.blogspot.com/BipolarBunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04978886648984312700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-83263479744468256422012-06-05T12:35:43.012-04:002012-06-05T12:35:43.012-04:00I like that idea, 'once our personalities have...I like that idea, 'once our personalities have found a sympathetic vibration, time and space don't matter, the vibration will still be there when we see each other again'. <br /><br />You know I spent years doing infrared spectroscopy when I was a chemist? Simply put, the bonds in molecules are always vibrating. You can measure the wavelength of energy (in the Infrared region of the spectrum) and interpret what kinds of bonds are present in the molecule. Very powerful! So, that is why love this vibration analogy...it resonates with me. (Resonance is another favorite word of spectroscopists- I know, I'm a complete nerd, that is why you love me LOL.)Kyahgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04496268340516243071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-30030816697985980342012-05-25T01:10:58.384-04:002012-05-25T01:10:58.384-04:00I love YOU, Laura. I believe there will be a next ...I love YOU, Laura. I believe there will be a next time, too. Heck - I have a passport now, and have never been to Canada!<br /><br />I'm not been good at keeping in touch with people. Facebook helps immensely, but I still procrastinate; often to the point of flaking on people. But with most folks I genuinely care about, it often ends up being a more extreme form of procrastination. Any friend I've cared enough about to reconnect with later down the line has turned out to be someone who I feel comfortable with almost immediately, even years later.<br /><br />When that happens, I want to kick myself for losing touch with someone I like and resonate with that much, but it also reassures me. I think that due to my personality type, my connections are more about the *person* and less about current events/history. An individual I vibed with once is someone I will probably always vibe with, and the rest is just stuff for us to talk about. Drifting for a bit and losing touch doesn't, for me, equate to losing the relationship. I know this isn't the case for a lot of personality types, and I've come to terms with the fact that my behavior will never be acceptable to them (and vice versa).<br /><br />I really am a hugger, so be forewarned for our future visit! It might be a case of a big hug and then a massive awkward silence from me, but I'll be there in the quiet.Trinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08711876205793925101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-5880474703466740782012-05-24T19:11:05.464-04:002012-05-24T19:11:05.464-04:00Next time I see you (I have to believe there will ...Next time I see you (I have to believe there will be a next time) I am going to give you a great big hug. If I may be so forward to say..I love you too!<br /> <br />I was recently looking through a bunch of memorabilia from my teen years that my mom had saved for me. It struck me that I used to be much better at keeping in touch with people and letting them know I cared. Its something a person has to keep working on.<br /><br />I'm glad you still post periodically and are still here so I can drop by and cyber-visit you :-)Kyahgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04496268340516243071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-33535148001974147362011-12-20T09:51:01.851-05:002011-12-20T09:51:01.851-05:00You've made an excellent point. I've never...You've made an excellent point. I've never really thought about it before but that is so true. Have a great day.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12076852809147914218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-73429005136200469332011-10-04T01:35:30.651-04:002011-10-04T01:35:30.651-04:00Thanks, R. This has been a very difficult time for...Thanks, R. This has been a very difficult time for me and my family. Life is never easy or simple.Trinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08711876205793925101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-14625088457080812902011-09-25T12:12:43.518-04:002011-09-25T12:12:43.518-04:00This is a really beautiful post, and I'm grate...This is a really beautiful post, and I'm grateful and humbled you've shared it with us. I particularly love that he was happy his tradition of wine-making was being held and treasured.<br /><br />Loads of love and strength your way, Trina.risahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04305216616237465981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-69719330910167800592011-09-23T02:29:11.142-04:002011-09-23T02:29:11.142-04:00Thanks, sweetie!Thanks, sweetie!Trinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08711876205793925101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-70086869263484713542011-09-18T16:57:23.563-04:002011-09-18T16:57:23.563-04:00If it helps, I really like your navel-gazing.If it helps, I really like your navel-gazing.risahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04305216616237465981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-22706436304440100002011-08-07T05:29:58.793-04:002011-08-07T05:29:58.793-04:00Ragde,
Sorry I've been wrapped up in other th...Ragde,<br /><br />Sorry I've been wrapped up in other things and not on the ball here. Whatever you want that you think will yield the best results for you, your wife, and children, I'm happy to help. And if it turns out I'm not the resource for you, that's fine too. My only real goal in life is to NOT impede the happiness and health of others.Trinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08711876205793925101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-44917567635741832942011-07-23T00:54:41.286-04:002011-07-23T00:54:41.286-04:00Gemel - likewise! And in case I haven't said i...Gemel - likewise! And in case I haven't said it clearly enough before, I treasure beyond words the view of the universe through your eyes that you share so generously.<br /><br />L - I only know second-hand how hard that is (my aunt passed away a few years ago, which I only obliquely mentioned here) and I saw how my dad had to handle things with her husband and my grandparents. Honestly, I think my grandparents still haven't recovered and that a lot of their physical issues stem from the emotional trauma. But that branch of the family isn't so good about talking about things. I hope it goes better for you and your mother. (((L)))Trinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08711876205793925101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-11667090523799331192011-07-19T19:43:29.234-04:002011-07-19T19:43:29.234-04:00I haven't been around for awhile but I'm g...I haven't been around for awhile but I'm glad I popped by to hear about your updated plans and that you're feeling good. <br /><br /><br />You know Trina, I'm still processing my sister's death in March and a lot of my life has been revolving around helping my Mom move on (literally and figuratively-she HAS to move out of my sister's house and she is in terrible denial and resistance).<br /><br />take care<br />LKyahgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04496268340516243071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-15187379160508170532011-07-11T07:03:59.901-04:002011-07-11T07:03:59.901-04:00Glad to hear your still here :)Glad to hear your still here :)Gemelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18200604001728203230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-12791934514714417502011-07-10T00:09:47.446-04:002011-07-10T00:09:47.446-04:00... comment reply Part II ...
I've only read ...... comment reply Part II ...<br /><br />I've only read a few books on the subject because I quickly found a book that spoke to me strongly: "The Secret Language of Eating Disorders: How You Can Understand and Work to Cure Anorexia and Bulimia" by Peggy Claude-Pierre. Because her personal experience focused a lot more on anorexia, there is a good bit that doesn't apply. But when I started reading it, I did so with a pencil to underline the passages that spoke to me. I stopped underlining about 3 chapters in because I was underlining about half of the content and it was obvious that the book was worthy in its entirety.<br /><br />I do have to add a couple caveats - the author sees anorexia in particular and eating disorders in general as a form of slow suicide. I strongly disagree. I also take issue with the notion that eating disorders can be "cured", or that anything even approaching that can be found within that book, especially for adult sufferers. What you will find in this book is a more in-depth discussion of how a person can arrive at this condition (some of which will look familiar to you after reading my posts, since they're informed by it to an extent). And if your wife is open to self-analysis, this book is a great place to start in terms of realizing how this happened to her. There are likely better books out there, but once I read this and it put me solidly on the road to figuring out specifically how and why *I* became bulimic, other books were redundant or just wrong.<br /><br />If she does want to learn more, you can always point her here. I'd be happy to delete your comment and these responses, if that is the case and if you want, so she won't feel like she was being "discussed". That has always been a kind of phobia for me - that people will feel the need to "help" me without my knowledge or input. Honestly, I feel a bit guilty that I've even done this much (I'm the Guilt Queen though, so that's all me). But I know her pain, and if I can do anything to lessen it I will; and I understand the helplessness of being the person who wants to help and has no way of even figuring out how or where to start.<br /><br />I hope this has at least given you a few ideas. Thank you for caring so much about your wife and your children, and for being proactive on an issue that is sadly far too easy to sweep under the rug. I wish you and your family all the best.<br /><br />~ TrinaTrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08711876205793925101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-467717887459759302011-07-10T00:08:12.947-04:002011-07-10T00:08:12.947-04:00Ragde,
[blogger is making me split this into 2 co...Ragde,<br /><br />[blogger is making me split this into 2 comments]<br /><br />Thank you for reading, and for caring enough about your wife and girls to go researching on your own! It's something my husband struggles with too - he wants to help and wants me to be able to talk to him about it, but it's such a tricky and difficult subject. And while I can't speak for your wife, I will admit that depending on where my head is at, sometimes talking about it is the thing that triggers it. Really, it's almost ALL about where my brain is on any given day. Which I know is no help to you at all.<br /><br />Practical advice: I don't know how you eat or how health-conscious you and your family strive to be, but the best thing you can do to help her avoid episodes is to NOT bring up junk foods as a meal option. I'm highly suggestible when it comes to eating badly. All it takes is my husband saying, "I could eat some pizza for dinner," and my brain locks in on it and I HAVE to have pizza. Or burgers or Chinese or whatever. It is in no way his fault, and since unfortunately I'm not doing so well right now, I am often glad when he's the one to bring it up so I can have the bad foods I want without feeling 100% guilty. Just being conscious of the way her brain might take this as permission might help you avoid inadvertent enabling (and by this I mean from how HER brain works, not that I think you're enabling her the way other disorders label it). Hands-on practical: if you go food shopping, don't bring home chips or sweets or whatever her favorite binge-foods are. Don't offer to stop and pick up dinner on your way home if it means fast food or take-out. If she's anything like me, she won't say no to any of the above, even when she knows she should.<br /><br />In a similar vein, going the opposite route and taking a hard line about not eating any junk at all ever is also a bad move. When I try to do that to myself (my husband knows better and would never think of it lol!) my inner brat comes roaring out and I end up on a purely self-sabotaging binge that makes me feel worse about myself than ever.<br /><br />So from a food perspective, aiming for healthy while not restricting is the best option, though it's not easy or clear.<br /><br />I know talking about bulimia is hard. The best thing that happened to me when I started wanting to seriously work on it was talking to a family friend with a psych background. She didn't work with me too much because eating disorders aren't her area of expertise (and I have to warn you - it's HARD to find a therapist who is willing to deal with them) but we would have a weekly check-in on the phone, and I'd tell her how many purges I'd had each day in the week before. We didn't talk about the circumstances or my feelings or any details, I just reported the numbers. Just keeping track and having someone "neutral" to keep me accountable just to myself helped a LOT. I reduced the number of purges significantly, and have never gone back to the frequencies I'd been hitting before.<br /><br />Even if she doesn't tell you (or anyone), you might want to suggest to your wife that she keep a little cheap calendar somewhere and just write her total number at the end of the day. If it will help her, she can tell you - or someone else - once a week or two, or monthly, whatever works. Keeping tabs while removing the pressure of *immediately* owning up to my behavior mad me feel a lot more in control, and took away pressure and guilt. If she wants to keep her info locked away somewhere, make sure she knows that's fine too. Confessing, even if only to yourself, is a powerful act all on its own.<br /><br />... continued...Trinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08711876205793925101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-13856048158379519552011-07-09T09:36:32.057-04:002011-07-09T09:36:32.057-04:00My wife of 5 1/2 years is bulimic. She has had &q...My wife of 5 1/2 years is bulimic. She has had "bouts" with bulimia on and off throughout our marriage. We have two little girls (5 years and 10 months). She was doing "well" after our 10-month old was born but is in the midst of a serious "relapse" for about 2 - 3 weeks now. I never previously bothered informing myself, other than to suggest she go to a therapist in the beginning of our marriage. I've now come to accept and realize that I did not take her problem seriously; am uninformed; and am ignorant about the whole issue. Yours is the first personal account I read regarding bulimia. Wikipedia and those other sources don't enlightened or provide real understanding. The patterns and similarities between what you've described and my wife's personality/history are unmistakable. There was abuse as a teenager, but I don't know if there are other incidents she hasn't disclosed. I'm concerned obviously about her mental health. I'm also concerned about physical toll the disease has (e.g., gastrointestinal damage, tooth decay); and I'm concerned about the affect on our 2 daughters. Although I think I'm the only one she will readily tell if she's purged on any given day, she detests talking about her bulimia. I don't know how often she purges, but know that she's consumed a lot of "junk food" in the past week or so. Do you have any suggestions as to how I can begin to start having a meaning discussion with her about this? (she's a stay-at-home mom so therapy sessions may be difficult but not impossible to schedule, assuming she's even inclined to go). What can I "do" to minimize the effects/triggers/purges/disease? What resources (books, websites, etc) do you recommend? (I know this is a shot in the dark but thought you could shed additional light for those whose loved ones are struggling with bulimia)Ragdehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16342363735007655308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-70499797959648124962011-04-08T04:34:03.739-04:002011-04-08T04:34:03.739-04:00The LAST thing I'd want to do is be a landlord...The LAST thing I'd want to do is be a landlord/lady! Especially in this neighborhood. I'd rather wait or take a hit. I don't think prices are going to go up around here anytime soon. I just want someone to take it off our hands.<br /><br />And I know prices might not reflect it, but I don't think you're screwed - your house is beautiful, as is the area around it!Trinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08711876205793925101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-10616084997289750222011-03-31T01:27:15.524-04:002011-03-31T01:27:15.524-04:00Ahh, houses. I worry all the time too. Our house h...Ahh, houses. I worry all the time too. Our house has devalued tens of thousands of dollars since we bought it, which scares me. The housing market in Washington crashed late, as in, right after we bought. Yay! We do want to stay in it, which is good, but if things didn't work out, we're screwed. Do you not want to rent it out and sell when/if prices go up?sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15284411149099327486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12438564.post-26976580719408251982011-03-10T23:22:21.699-05:002011-03-10T23:22:21.699-05:00let the mayhem begin!!let the mayhem begin!!Kyahgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04496268340516243071noreply@blogger.com